Is your friend going through a breakup? Here's what you can do, according to a therapist:
- Limit the breakup banter. “Use your bandwidth as a boundary,” says clinical psychologist and host of “The Kurre and Klapow Show,” Joshua Klapow, Ph.D. “Let them know that you have heard what they said, you are thinking about the impact, and trying to sort it out so you can help them and be supportive. Let them know that you need a little break so you can soak in all they said.”
- Do something to distract them. Research has revealed that distraction is the best approach for getting over an ex.
- Suggest therapy when necessary. Sometimes, the fallout from a friend’s breakup is so intense that they may require more support beyond friends.
- Discourage self-destructive behavior. Don't be afraid to discourage self-destructive behavior (i.e. drunk texting their ex, stalking their ex's social media accounts, etc.) Dr. Klapow advises asking them point blank: “Why do you want to do this? What benefit will you get out of it? How will this help the situation?”
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